What can I do to stop this divorce?
I receive calls from men all over the United States asking me this question. With the advice of my husband, we have established a general list. These are things he did during our troubled marriage (remember: I was the one who wanted to leave). These are also things we have since advised men to do in the years since. Our years of experience have proved they work.
Get into counseling. A Christian counselor is highly recommended because they will lead you toward forgiveness and reconciliation (Gal. 6:2). If your wife won’t go with you, go alone. You pastor may be able to recommend someone in your community. If not, contact:
- Focus on the Family at (800) A-FAMILY (232-6459). The toll line is (719) 531-5181. Counseling Department: Call 719-531-3400, ext. 7700, Monday-Friday 9 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. Mountain time. www.family.com
- American Association of Christian Counselors at www.aacc.org.
Admit your part in the decline of your relationship. Pointing a finger at your wife, will only drive her farther from you.
Ask others to pray for you. If you’re not in a small group, join one. Good support will be invaluable during this difficult time (Mat 18:20)
If you have children, put their interests above your own. Don’t argue in front of them. Don’t put them in the middle of your arguments. Don’t make them the carriers of messages. Don’t use them to get even with your wife.
Don’t use this time to punish your wife.
